ഇപ്പോൾ ഏകദേശംവൈകുന്നേരം7.25 ആയെന്നുംപതിവില്ലാത്ത വിധം ജോലിത്തിരക്കുണ്ടായിരുന്ന ഒരു ദിവസം ഒറ്റയ്ക്ക് വീട്ടിലേയ്ക്ക് മടങ്ങുകയാണെന്നും സങ്കൽപ്പിക്കുക.

നിങ്ങൾ യഥാർത്ഥത്തിൽ വളരെയധികം ക്ഷീണിതനും നിരാശനുമായി ആകെ താറുമാറായിരിക്കുകയാണ്

പെട്ടെന്ന് ഒരു കലശലായ വേദന നെഞ്ചിൽ നിന്ന് കൈകളിൽ പടർന്നു താടി വരെയെത്തുന്നതായി അനുഭവപ്പെടുകയും ചെയ്യുന്നു.തൊട്ടടുത്തുള്ള ആശുപത്രിയിലേയ്ക്ക് ഏകദേശം ഇനിയും 5 കി മി ദൂരമുണ്ട്.

നിർഭാഗ്യവശാൽ അവിടെ വരെയെത്താൻ കഴിയുമോയെന്ന് നിങ്ങൾക്കുറപ്പില്ല.

CPR-cardiopulmonary resuscitation (ഹൃദയശ്വാസകോശ പുനരുജ്ജീവനം)ൽ നിങ്ങൾ പരിശീലനം ലഭിച്ചയാളാണ് പക്ഷേ നിങ്ങളെ അതഭ്യസിച്ചയാൾ അത് നിങ്ങളിൽ സ്വയം എങ്ങനെ പ്രാവർത്തികമാക്കാം എന്നുള്ളത് പഠിപ്പിച്ചു തന്നിരുന്നില്ല

ഒറ്റയ്ക്കുള്ളപ്പോൾ എങ്ങനെ ഹൃദയാഘാതം അതിജീവിക്കാം?
കാരണം ഹൃദയാഘാതമുണ്ടാകുമ്പോൾ പലരും പരസഹായം ലഭിക്കാൻ സാധ്യതയില്ലാത്ത വിധം ഒറ്റയ്ക്കായിരിക്കും. അസാധാരണമായി മിടിക്കുന്ന ഹൃദയവും ക്ഷയിച്ചുകൊണ്ടിരിക്കുന്ന ബോധത്തിനുമിടയിൽ പുനരുജ്ജീവനത്തിന് ഏകദേശം പത്ത് സെക്കണ്ട് കിട്ടാനേ സാധ്യതയുള്ളൂ

എന്നാൽ ഇവർക്ക് സ്വയം ചെയ്യാൻ കഴിയുന്ന ഒരു കാര്യം തുടർച്ചയായി ശക്തമായി ചുമയ്ക്കുകയെന്നുളളത്. ഓരോ ചുമയ്ക്ക് മുൻപും ദീർഘശ്വാസം എടുക്കുകയും,നെഞ്ചിൽ നിന്ന് കഫം ഉണ്ടാവുന്ന തരത്തിൽ ദീർഘവും ശക്തവും ആയിരിക്കുകയും വേണം

ശ്വസനവും ചുമയും രണ്ട് സെക്കണ്ട് ഇടവിട്ട്‌ മുടങ്ങാതെ പരസഹായം ലഭിക്കുന്നത് വരെയോ ഹൃദയം സാധാരണ നിലയിൽ മിടിക്കുന്നു എന്ന് തോന്നുന്നത് വരെയോ മുടക്കമില്ലാതെ തുടരേണ്ടതാണ്

ദീർഘശ്വസനം ശ്വാസകോശത്തിലേയ്ക്ക് ഓക്സിജൻ പ്രവാഹിപ്പിക്കുകയും, ചുമ മൂലം ഹൃദയം അമരുകയും അത് വഴി രക്തചംക്രമണം നിലനിർത്തുകയും ചെയ്യുന്നു. ഹൃദയത്തിലെ ഈ സമ്മർദം അതിനെ പൂർവസ്ഥിതി കൈ വരിക്കാൻ സഹായിക്കും.ഇപ്പ്രകാരം ഹൃദയാഘാതരോഗികൾ ബോധം നഷ്ടമാകാതെ ആശുപത്രിയിൽ എത്തിച്ചേരാൻ കഴിയും.

നിങ്ങളാൽ കഴിയുന്നവരോടൊക്കെ ഇതേ കുറിച്ച് പറയുക. അത് പലരുടെയും ജീവൻ രക്ഷിക്കാൻ ഇടയാക്കും.

By Jeremy Brown

Positive psychology is the science of strengths and looking at what makes individuals and couples thrive.

Marriage takes work. Everyone knows this. But what many don’t realize is that they might be working on the wrong things. Or even working on the right things in the wrong way.

“In our culture, there’s so much focus on getting together rather than on being together and staying happy together,” says Suzann Pileggi, who, along with her husband, James Pawelski, director of education at the University of Pennsylvania Positive Psychology Center, authored Happy Together: Using the Science of Positive Psychology to Build Love That Lasts. “Looking at positive psychology research and seeing what is it that can actually lead to a happier marriage.”

Positive psychology is the science of strengths and looking at what makes individuals and couples thrive. “The research shows that, if you’re focusing more on growing the nuggets of what’s good, you have a better chance of having a happy relationship.” In other words, know your strengths and spend time maintaining them. Here, then, are five tips that Suzann and James say will lead to better days for you and your spouse.

1. Cultivate a healthy passion

That idea of starry-eyed lovers who are forever on each other’s minds and obsess over each other daily? Total B.S. In fact, per Pileggi this thinking is detrimental, as it can give rise to the idea that obsessive passion is a healthy thing.

“In the beginning of a relationship, you can’t stop thinking about your partner, you might be distracted at work, you might cancel plans with friends to see your girlfriend or future spouse,” she explains. “But if that continues months or years into the relationship and you’re not seeing your friendsanymore, you’re not engaging in activities that you did before the relationship, and you can’t focus on anything else, that could be more of an obsessive passion.”

In order to create a healthy passion, Pileggi says to be sure to make room in your mind for your other interests and other people. Then, when you are with your partner, find ways to connect over things that you both enjoy. “It’s about forging a deeper bond, not trying to be competitive,” Pileggi says. “So don’t choose something that you really like and enjoy and your wife has no interest in. The idea is to connect, not to compete.”

2. Embrace the upside

At the beginning of a relationship, positive emotions are flowing with regularity. Excitement, joy, passion are all right at your fingertips. But, as the relationship progresses and you both get more comfortable with each other, some people expect that those positive emotions will just happen without any effort. Not so.

“The research shows that the happiest couples with the most sustainable marriages are the ones who actively cultivate them all the time and prioritize them as opposed to waiting around for them to happen,” she says. “Because, like with anything, the newness of something, those heightened positive emotions, the level and the frequency just naturally don’t occur as much as in the beginning of a relationship, the falling-in-love stage.”

So, couples in long-term relationships who are looking to cultivate positive emotions have to ask themselves what can they do each day, what activities or actions can they do in order to keep positive emotions flowing in a marriage.

“Imagine if you just bought a gym membership and went once and then said, ‘Okay, now I’m going to be fit,’” Pileggi says. “No, you work out regularly and throughout your lifetime.”

One activity that Pileggi and her husband discuss in Happy Together is a ‘Positive Relationship Portfolio,’ And yes, it is actually a portfolio: of pictures, mementos, and other such items that mean something in your relationship. If that’s your style or not, we get it. The point of the exercise is to devote time to thinking about the fond memories, which, per Pileggi, is extremely important. However you do it is up to you.

3. Savor experiences

Positive emotions and moments are fleeting. Pileggi says that it’s important to slow down and take time to enjoy them. “Research shows that if you spend at least 15 minutes savoring something you could increase your satisfaction,” she says. “One way to do that is sharing secrets with one another. Ask your spouse about a favorite childhood experience, or a secret they never told anyone or big idea or dream they always had for the future.” The point is this: The more you open up and talk about these sorts of things, the deeper a bond you’re able to create.

4. Locate and focus on character strengths

What are your partner’s strengths? Do you know? Positive Psychology researchers have identified 24 character traits that people possess in different measures. Things like creativity, curiosity, zest, love of learning, leadership. Pileggi recommends taking a Character Strengths test with your partner (one is available here). Then, once you’ve determined what your strengths are, you can have conversations with each other about them. From there, Pileggi says, you both can go on what she and her husband call a “strength date.” Sounds weird right? But the idea is sound: each of you to pick a top strength and go on a date that plays to — and satisfies — both of them.

5. Emphasize gratitude

“If your partner feels taken advantage of and not acknowledged, they’re not going to be satisfied,” she says. And just saying “thanks” isn’t enough.

An example: If your spouse gives you a gift or does something kind for you, don’t just thank them, but also say something like, “You really know what I need and you’re such a good listener.” or “You’re so thoughtful, and I can see how thoughtful you are with our children and the way you are at work.”

It’s about being deliberate and specific in how you express appreciation for your partner. “Express your thanks and express it well,” says Pileggi. “Which means focusing on your partner and her actions and her strengths rather than solely on the gift and the benefit to you.” The end result: Per Pileggi, couples who did this decreased their chances of breaking up six months later by 50 percent.

by Dr. Abdul Kalam

"When I was a kid, my Mom cooked food for us. One night she had made dinner after a long hard day's work, Mom placed a plate of 'subzi' and extremely burnt roti in front of my Dad.

I was waiting to see if anyone noticed the burnt roti. But Dad just ate his roti and asked me how was my day at school. I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember I heard Mom apologizing to Dad for the burnt roti.

And I'll never forget what he said: "Honey, I love burnt roti."

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy, good night & I asked him if he really liked his roti burnt. He wrapped me in his arms & said: "Your momma put in a long hard day at work today and she was really tired.

And besides... A burnt roti never hurts anyone but HARSH WORDS DO!"

"You know son - life is full of imperfect things... & imperfect people..."

I'M NOT THE BEST & I HAVE LEARNT TO ACCEPT THAT LIFE IS NOT PERFECT AND NOR ARE PEOPLE NEAR & DEAR TO YOU.

What I've learnt over the years is: To Accept Each Others Faults & Choose To Celebrate Relationships.

by Rhonda Stoppe, Speaker and Author

“For this reason I will not be negligent to remind you always of these things” (2 Peter 1:12)

Last week all our children were home along with their spouses and our eight grandchildren. We live on a ranch in the mountains so coming home to visit Gramma and Papa is filled with lots of adventures and feeding the animals.

Getting older brings a clarity to what’s important. While we want our grandkids to remember their times on Papa’s farm, we want to leave them with a godly legacy. With this goal in mind, let’s look at 10 things every grandparent should tell their grandchildren.

1. I'm so glad God made you.

Our grandkids are growing up in a world that does not acknowledge God as their Creator, so it’s vital that parents and grandparents regularly remind them how God carefully designed them in their mother’s womb.

Along with knowing God made them, kids need to believe that people important to them are happy they are alive. Too many children struggle with feelings of inadequacy and loneliness. Some act out, some recluse, but few will say, “Hey, when you're too busy to play with me, read to me, or tuck me in at night, I feel like I don’t matter.”

2. I will always listen to you.

If you want to have the privilege of speaking truth to your grandkids, you have to earn that honor by being a good listener. Too many grandparents spend little time in conversations with their grandchildren until they see them making mistakes or choosing a wrong path. If the only time you engage with your grandchild is to correct them or point out what you don’t like about their attitude or attire, don’t be surprised if they’re not interested in listening to your wisdom when they become adolescents or young adults.

3. You are precious.

Jesus Loves the Little Children is the song at the top of my 3-year-old granddaughter’s request list whenever she gets tucked into bed at night. I often bend over and kiss her forehead as I sing, “Red, brown, yellow, black and white, they are precious in His sight” to show her how precious she really is to Jesus and to me.

Kids long to believe they are precious. And while God puts in the heart of every person a longing to find their worth in being loved deeply by their Creator, He has also created us to love and be loved by others. The more valued your grandchild feels by you and your family, the more they will be empowered not to seek affirmation by their peers by succumbing to peer pressure.

4. God loves you.

It may seem logical to teach kids about Christianity by telling them what the Bible says they should and should not do. And it is right to train them to honor and obey God’s commands. But if we focus only on the list of dos and don’ts, we miss the wonderful opportunity to introduce our grandchildren to the depth of Jesus’ great love for them.

Kids learn best how they are loved when it is demonstrated to them through loving actions. Saying “I love you” without showing love can feel like empty words to a child––or anyone really. In the same way, God, who is the perfect loving Father, displayed the depth of His love by sending his only Son whose sacrifice would pay the price for our sin. Reminding your grandchild of how God lovingly offers new life in Christ to anyone who would turn from their sin to follow Jesus is a great way to help them realize how great the Father's love is for them.

The Bible offers many reminders of God’s display of adoration for us. You would be wise to memorize some of these verses and regularly share them with your grandchild:

“Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us that we should be called children of God.” (1 John 3:1)

“For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)

“But God demonstrates His own love for us in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8)

5. God has a plan for your life.

From the time kids are little, people begin to ask them what they want to be when they grow up. Some children have a definite plan, like our oldest son who dreamt from a young age of being a fighter pilot in the Air Force. He grew up and did just that. But for most kids, their goals change daily––and that’s okay. But deep in their little minds, and this grows more intense as they reach adulthood, your grandchildren give a lot of thought to what they should do with their lives.

My husband often told our kids, and now our grandkids, “I don’t care what you grow up to do for a living as long as you are serving Christ.” When people would inquire, teaching them to respond by saying, “I’m gonna do whatever God wants me to do,” took a lot of pressure off of our kids. When our younger son made the decision to study music in college, he was met with a number of negative comments from men who challenged the wisdom of his decision. Saying things like, “You can’t support a family on a worship leader’s salary.”

These comments were meant in kindness but really threw off our son, Brandon. We would remind him how we trusted his decision because he was walking in a close walk with Christ and seeking the Lord for His wisdom and discernment. In the end Brandon studied music and biblical studies in college. After graduation he toured with some well known

Christian bands and then after he married, he was hired to lead worship at a church in Southern California. God has blessed Brandon’s decision as a young man to follow the leading of the Spirit, rather than succumb to fear and follow the “more reasonable career path” others thought he should have taken.*

I share this story to remind you of the power of your words as a grandparent. You can pour courage into your grandkids to follow God’s plan for their lives if you remind them of how God saved them unto good works that He has ordained in advance (see Ephesians 2:8-10). Exposing your grandkids to Bible stories and good biographies of people who wholeheartedly followed Christ is a great way to inspire them to trust that God has a plan for their lives too.

6. Loving God is the secret to loving others.

Loving others selflessly does not come naturally. Just spending an afternoon watching your grandkids take each other’s toys confirms this truth. But there is a way to train your grandkids to love others in a way that is truly selfless.

When the religious leaders asked Jesus what was the priority of life His response was, “You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength.” And then He said the second commandment was to love others as we love ourselves (see Mark 12:30-31). All too often we attempt to love others without first growing the depth of our love for God. When this happens loving others is usually a difficult task.

But when people first determine to spend the rest of their lives discovering God’s character as revealed in Scripture, their trust and love for Him will grow as they learn His ways. The more deeply you love God, the more freely His selfless love will spill out of your heart and onto those around you––even on those who are difficult to love. And don’t you want this to be the example of love your kids learn from you their grandparent?

Jesus said, “The student will become like his teacher” (Luke 6:40). Your grandchildren will learn to love by how they observe you loving others––not by how you tell them they should be treating people. You will bless your grandchildren if you teach them the secret to loving others deeply is not found in how well they measure up to your expectations, but in how well they love God. And let it begin with you.

7. Be quick to forgive.

Learning to quickly forgive others and to think well of them are valuable lessons to teach your grandchild. It is in our sinful nature to hold onto grudges and to assign wrong motives to people’s actions. But by God’s grace and the Spirit’s power, we can break free of these unpleasant sinful practices to become a person who is ready to forgive––and looks for the best in others.

Wouldn’t you agree that the best friendships are with those who you trust to believe the best about you? Helping your grandchild discover this valuable secret will equip them to become someone others will not only like to be around, but also trust to be a loyal friend.

8. Be content.

1 Timothy 6:6 says, “Godliness with contentment is great gain.” In a generation where your grandkids will be influenced to believe they’re entitled to more of whatever their little hearts desire, training them this valuable secret of contentment will do more to equip them for a happy life than all the gifts you might lavish upon them.

Trust me, I’m a grandparent who loves to pile gifts on my grandkids. But a wise grandparent will balance generosity with training them to be grateful for what they have. Ask God for His wisdom to help you guide them in godliness and contentment––beginning with your own example.

9. I'm praying for you.

When I was a young girl, I’d awaken each morning to the smell of coffee. As I dragged my sleepy self out of bed, I’d walk past the living room where I’d see my father on his knees praying for our family. (To this day the smell of coffee brings a warm reminder of those mornings.) I cannot tell you the security I felt knowing my daddy was daily interceding before God on our behalf. I learned from his example the power of prayer. So naturally when I had children, praying for them became a regular practice.

These days my children are grown, married, and have kids of their own. My father continues to pray for my kids, their spouses, and their children. My eldest daughter recently said, “Mom, Papa’s prayers are precious to me. I love knowing that he and Oma are daily praying for me and my family.” One of the most powerful legacies you can leave your grandkids is training them by example the importance of prayer.

10. Tell others about the hope of Jesus.

Do your grandkids hear you complaining about how the world’s going to hell in a handbasket? Or do they sense your burden for the lost who are blinded by the enemy? It’s easy to point out what’s wrong in the world today––and we should help our grandkids learn to discern right from wrong. But couple those comments with your deep sorrow over the lost. And how their only hope for salvation is if we tell them God loves them so much He sent His Son to save them from their sin.

In this way you’ll train them not to grow overwhelmed with anxiety, but rather to ask God to use them as a light shining like a star in a crooked and perverse generation (Daniel 12:3, Philippians 2:15). For in this, your grandchildren will find purpose in life and hope for the future. And I promise you won’t regret it!

*Get more insights for moms from Rhonda's book: Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Rhonda Stoppe is the NO REGRETS WOMAN with more than 30 years experience of helping women build a no regrets lives. Rhonda is the author of six books and appears on numerous radio programs including FamilyTalk, Focus on the Family, Family Life Today and hosts The No Regrets Hour. She speaks at women’s events, Pastor’s Wives Conferences, MOPs, and homeschool conventions.

By Mark Ford

Here are some interesting statistics: In the 1970s, the minimum wage, adjusted for inflation, was at its highest point ever.

During the same period of time, the average weekly income of production workers, adjusted for inflation, was at its height too. During the 70s, the median existing home price topped $110,000 for the first time and grew steadily.

Today, it stands at more than $130,000. So despite all the hoopla over the Internet economy and all the publicity about America's new millionaires, most people are getting paid less while the cost of living in a new home is going up.

So if it feels tougher to make a decent living these days, cheer up… because you're right; it is tougher. You are not imagining things.

How do you fight this trend? How do you get richer in an economy that is making most people poorer?

Let's look, for a hint, at how the super-rich earned their money. Let's go back a hundred years or so and try to identify the top 10 moneymakers. Keep in mind, it's not as easy as looking up everybody's net worth. If that's all there were to it, the list would have Bill Gates at the top, his partner Paul Allen next, Warren Buffet third, and so on.

But that wouldn't reflect the impact of inflation. Nor would it take into account the size of the current economy. A better way to measure the wealth of these men is to calculate each one's net worth against the gross national product in his era. This will give you a much better understanding of the economic status and power they have or had during their lifetimes.

Luckily, the work has been done for us. In their very interesting book, The Wealthy 100, Michael Klepper and Robert Gunther have tabulated the fortunes of most of America's great businessmen. A review of the top 10 provides some interesting insights.

(I don't know about you, but just reading about the super-rich is enough to pick up my spirits!)

Here they are with their fortunes recalculated and put into today's terms

John D. Rockefeller (1839-1937), $212 billion. The legendary founder of Standard Oil, which once controlled 90% of the nation's oil business.
Andrew Carnegie (1835-1919), $112 billion. A penniless Scottish immigrant who built America's largest steel business.
William H. Gates III (1955- ), $85 billion. A Harvard dropout who was a founder of Microsoft.
Frederick Weyerhaeuser (1834-1914), $48 billion. A German immigrant who founded the company that eventually owned more than 2 million acres of land.
Marshall Field (1834-1906), $45 billion. A retail magnate who introduced open prices and return policies. Coined the phrase, "The customer is always right."
Sam Walton (1918-1992), $42 billion. An Arkansas businessman who, with his brother James, founded Wal-Mart and brought large, well-run stores to remote and rural areas.
Paul G. Allen (1953- ), $40 billion. A high school buddy of Bill Gates who left Honeywell to help found Microsoft.
Henry Ford (1863-1947), $40 billion. The originator of the Model T, Ford Motor Company's founder is credited with automating the manufacture of automobiles in 1914 when his assembly lines began putting out 250,000 cars a year.
Andrew W. Mellon (1855-1937), $36 billion. A Pittsburgh-based banker who, with his brother Richard, supplied the capital for much of the Industrial Revolution in America.
Richard B. Mellon (1858-1933), $36 billion. (See above.)

Okay, what does this all mean?

First of all, if you dont have a net worth of at least $36 billion, theres no point in bragging about it.

Second, its very interesting to note that only two of the top ten moneymakers made their fortunes recently - and none of them made their money from the Internet.

Third, note how many of these men were contemporaries. Yes, these were the great industrialists. Their fortunes grew thanks to the incredible building and buying expansion fueled by the railroads, oil, automobiles, and the absence of confiscatory taxes.

Theres something else that most of them have in common: They all understood a great secret of wealth - one that is critical to understanding how to start and succeed in a new business:

The power of cheap pricing.

Weve talked, several times, about underpricing the competition. Rockefeller did it by offering cheap gas and oil . . . Carnegie did it by manufacturing inexpensive steel . . . Marshall Field and Sam Walton applied the principle to retail marketing . . . and Henry Ford was the first to build affordable cars.

Outpricing your competitors is not the only way to establish yourself in a market. It is simply the fastest way. If you have the opportunity to position yourself correctly and you can demand higher prices, do so. Higher prices usually mean larger margins, more cash to improve the product/service, more funds for customer service, higher profits in the long run, and a more pleasurable and less intense business environment.

But it aint easy. Customers want what you probably cant give them - very high quality and very low prices. To establish yourself, what youd normally do is provide something that looks, at a glance, like the better quality stuff, but for a fraction of the price. Undiscriminating buyers . . . of whom there are plenty . . . focus too strongly on the price tags.

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If you cant possibly compete on price - and getting the higher price you need seems impossible - you should really consider another industry. Not every business in every industry will give you the chance to make it rich. The first job of a wealth builder is to figure out if the business he is in will give him what he wants.

Ill talk about that in future messages. The very short version is this:

For you to get rich fast, your business should have at least three of the following four characteristics:

1. It should be in the business of selling. (That is to say, you should be developing a franchise hamburger business, not a gourmet sandwich shop.)

2. It should be a business that you can "grow" by adding more money to it, not by duplicating your talent. (A business that depends on your being there cannot be grown beyond you. And a business that cannot be grown beyond you will not get big enough to suit your goals.)

3. It should provide the market with a desired product/service at a reduced price.

4. It should capitalize (sell into) on a growing demand.

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About the Author:

Mark Morgan Ford was the creator of Early To Rise. In 2011, Mark retired from ETR and now writes the Wealth Builders Club. His advice, in our opinion, continues to get better and better with every essay, particularly in the controversial ones we have shared today. We encourage you to read everything you can that has been written by Mark....