Fall Allergy or Cold: Know the Difference.

Autumn means cooler weather, changing leaves, pumpkin-spiced everything and the start of sneezing, coughing and sniffling. But before you chalk it up to a cold, consider the possibility of fall allergies. Symptoms of allergies and colds can be similar, but here's a few questions that will help you know the difference.

What time of year is it?

Allergies occur during the change of seasons while colds happen during the winter months.

How long have you been feeling bad?

Colds usually end in two weeks, but allergy symptoms continue with exposure to allergens.

What color is your mucus discharge?

Colds may cause yellowish nasal discharge while allergies generally cause clear, thin, water mucus discharge.

What if I have a fever?

Colds may be accompanied by a fever, but usually allergies are not associated with a fever.

Editor's Note:

The 10-Day Communication Challenge is a series of short devotionals to help husbands and wives become more effective in how they communicate with each other. It is a 10 part series. Day 1, featured in Issue 437 of MWJ, covered 'Differing Assumptions'. This week, we present Day 2 of the series. There is also a bonus article related to the topic. Day 3 topic will be covered next week.

Day 2: The Line of Respect

By Dr. James Dobson

Show proper respect to everyone. (1 Peter 2:17)

Conflict can often play a positive role in marriage–especially when it helps maintain lines of respect. Suppose I work at my office two hours later than usual on a particular night. I know that Shirley is preparing a candlelight dinner, yet I don't call to let her know I'll be late. As the evening wears on, Shirley wraps the cold food in foil and puts it in the refrigerator. When I finally get home, I don't apologize. Instead, I sit down with the newspaper and abruptly tell Shirley to get my dinner ready. You can bet there would be fireworks in the Dobson household that night! Shirley would rightfully interpret my insensitive behavior as insulting and would move to defend the "line of respect" between us. Her strong feelings would be totally justified.

Let's put the shoe on the other foot. Suppose Shirley knows I need the car at 2:00 P.M. for some important purpose, but she deliberately keeps me waiting. Perhaps she sits in a restaurant with a friend, drinking coffee and talking. Meanwhile, I'm pacing the floor at home wondering where she is. It is very likely that she will hear about my dissatisfaction when she gets home. Even though the offense was minor, the line of respect has been violated.

Some things are worth defending. At the top of the list is the "line of respect" between husbands and wives.

Just between us...

• When was the last time we had a fight that was good for our relationship?
• Have I crossed your line of respect recently?
• How will upholding the line of respect improve our marriage?
• BONUS: Don't Take Your Spouse for Granted (See Below.)

Pray these words together:

Dear Lord, we want to show respect for each other, but we confess that we're too often self-centered and insensitive. Forgive us, Lord. Grant us Your grace as we defend the mutual rights that are the foundation of our affection. Amen.

By Dr. James Dobson

Honor one another above yourselves.
- Romans 12:10

Each of us has a heartfelt need to be honored and respected. All too often, however, we take our spouses for granted at home. Is it any wonder that so many mothers hold down jobs in the workplace today? Many work for financial reasons, but some do so to find the recognition and praise they don't get from their mates. Could this also be why many men spend excessive hours at work - to receive from colleagues the accolades that they don't get at home?

Your partner is a jack‐of‐all‐trades who brings a host of skills to your marriage: provider, short‐order cook, nurse, counselor, financial planner, gardener, arbiter of sibling disputes, spiritual leader, comforter, and much more. We encourage you to show your appreciation for these talents and services. Tell your wife how much you enjoy her cooking. Send your husband to work with a note praising him for his good judgment with the family budget. In front of guests, compliment her taste in home decor and his wise guidance of the children.

If we don't make our mate feel honored and respected, we may find our partner looking for recognition somewhere else.

Just between us . . .

• What couple do we know who is an example to us of honoring each other?
• Do we honor each other well?
• What opportunities to bestow honor have we missed?

Have we sought recognition elsewhere because we weren't receiving enough at home? Heavenly Father, forgive us for any self-centeredness or lack of consideration in our marriage. Please teach us to make honoring our spouse a reflex action, not a begrudging afterthought. Amen.

Has an Employer's Market Further Skewed Work-Life Balance?

5 Tips for Ensuring Desirable Lifestyle from Exxon Manager-Turned-Life Coach

With reports of the unemployment rate dropping to 7 percent, lower than it was even five years ago and down from a peak of 10 percent in October 2009, many are breathing a sigh of relief. But the effects of a long bout of high unemployment are sure to have thrown off the balance of employee well-being, says former Exxon executive Bob Epperly.

"Of course, the rate does not take into account those who are underemployed, including over-skilled workers in menial jobs and those with too few hours. For those lucky enough to have decent employment, many feel insecure and are willing to skew their work-life balance into a tailspin, with exaggerated emphasis on their career," says Epperly, a CEO who realized at age 55 that even a very successful career cannot fulfill every aspect of life.

"Most people cannot afford to simply refuse the demands of their job, so what's a worker to do?"

Epperly, author of "Growing Up After Fifty: From Exxon Executive to Spiritual Seeker," (www.bobepperly.com), offers tips for correcting lifestyle imbalance.

• It's never enough. Ambition is admirable, but if it's all that drives you, no matter how much you accomplish, it will never be enough. If professional ambition is more important to you than anything else in your life, that's a red flag that your life is dangerously unbalanced. The consequences will be painful feelings of emptiness, lack of fulfillment, and having missed out. Take steps now to restore balance, beginning with personal, non-work relationships.

• No one ever says, at the end of their life, that they should have worked longer and spent less time with family. When it's all said and done, life is short, and many realize that time is life's most precious resource. Intense focus on work tends to deprive professionals of opportunities with their loved ones – moments and memories that cannot be replaced. Set goals for how much time you'll spend giving your family 100 percent of your attention each day and week, and stick to them!

• Make communication a top priority! The importance and value of real communication cannot be overemphasized. "More important than speaking is listening," Epperly says. "My relationships immediately improved when I began listening very carefully to what was being said."

• Only you are responsible for your life. The Serenity Prayer goes a long way in work-life balance; it reads: "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." Epperly says that recognizing he is responsible for his life and focusing on the aspects of it over which he has influence while recognizing those he needs to let go has been pivotal.

• Accept who you are. This can be challenging; it demands courageous self-reflection and letting go of the need for external approval. "When a friend asked me, ‘Do you think the world is ready to accept Bob Epperly just as he is?' I suddenly saw that I had always felt I had to accommodate; that I wasn't okay as I am," he says. "I started to give myself permission to be me."

About Bob Epperly