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by: Chris J Roberts
Breaking up is hard to do. It can be hard even if you are the initiator or if
you are the one being dumped. Why are they so hard? First, if you are the one
being dumped, the pain you feel can be enormous. Second, if you are the
initiator, it’s the feeling of change that can be hard to deal with. Suddenly
being alone can be difficult to deal with; leaving some to feel it will never
end… the loneliness.
However, there is hope because there are ways to reduce the suffering you are
feeling, allowing you to move on with life. So how do you get over a break up?
There are 4 steps to help you recover.
Step (1) Be Patient –
Have you ever heard the patience is a virtue? Well, when you are dealing with a
break up this is true. You should have patience with the feelings you have, your
grief and the pain. If you want, scream, cry, pitch a fit, do what you must.
However, don’t think for one minute those feelings will last. Have patience that
it will pass. As time passes, you may realize that the pain, hurt and anger are
gone. This allows you to face life without past baggage. In saying that, don’t
rush right into a relationship after you discovered your pain has vanished.
Instead, wait to find someone special and have patience that it will happen.
Step (2) Be Flexible –
Have you ever faced this scenario before: It’s a Monday and you’ve been asked by
friends to go out on Friday evening? You plan all week for it and then Friday
comes around, you just don’t feel like going out. Try to make plans flexible. If
you can listen to what your emotions and body are telling you. Be patient in
that when you are ready, you’ll get out more. A good exercise to help heal the
pain is writing. Place all your emotions and feelings there.
Step (3) Give It Time –
Remember to give yourself time to get over your break up. Some friends may tell
you get out and go mingle. However, what’s actually best is to grief, cry, and
be sad or angry. Feel these emotions to work through the moods. You should be
out of the funk within two weeks. If it goes past that, talk with your physician
about it. You could be suffering from depression. Try talking with someone who
cares for you too. It helps too!
Step (4) Have Faith –
Remember that the feelings you have now do not last. You will smile again where
you cry now. You’ll find someone who will make you get over you ex and make you
wonder why you even cried over them in the first place. What do you need to
have? Have a little faith, that is.
See Also:
World
Peace? How About Home Peace First
If we are to make major advancements toward world peace, let's start developing
a healthy relationship in our domestic settings - especially with our Ex's - and
most importantly when there are children involved.
Matrimony to Acrimony or Harmony?
The importance of the choices you make when your marriage ends through which
children were born into this world, becomes more apparent as time continues to
march forward. Each step takes us down one of two pathways - acrimony or
harmony.
Overcoming Bitterness – Why Feeling of Bitterness is Bad for You
At the start of it, every new relationship is perfect. What starts slowly
ruining this “perfection” are the people who are within it and the expectations
they bring with them. If the partners come into the relationship with an open
mind, just enjoying living it day by day and accepting their partners as they
are, there would be less breakups.
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